Sunday, July 14, 2013

My Grand Adventure



A sweet, massaman-like curry
 And so I began my grand adventure!
I flew out of Melbourne on a cold wet June day. The thought of flying was exciting, but the thought of transit lounges made me nervous. It turns out transit lounges were fine, but the flying got a bit hairy. After 30 minutes of horrible, horrible turbulence, the pilot pinged us to say we were safely through. I really could have done with an earlier one saying "You aren't going to die today because of these clouds". I guess the important part was that we didn't.

I flew Royal Brunei. Polite helpful staff, lovely clothes, prayers at three stages of journey and pretty good food- poorly captured in the picture above. We got fed to the point of bursting. I had packed treats in case we were left to starve like I was on Lufthansa 20 years ago, but didn't really need any of it. My bottle of water was handy but not necessary. It was unlike the trip to the US a few years ago which was like crossing a desert according to my kidney's experience.....


But starting this story with the tales of transport is not really how I want to tell this story. It isn't about travel, it is about a gorgeous man actually.

So while I am flying Royal Brunei, I am actually flying to England to see Mark and meet his family.

I haven't a plan for how I am going to write this but I have loaded a bundle of photos which I guess will be prompts to memories of events and heart and I will weave it into some kind of mad nest of words!



Woodstock for breakfast. I was already in love with lanes and green
I arrived at Heathrow, turned around a couple of times at some ungodly hour of the morning and there was my Mark! A sight for weary eyes if ever there was. We left the airport and after going around one particular roundabout about 10 times waiting for the satnav to find us, we were off to Woodstock to visit Blenheim Palace. (Google's dictionary can agree with Blenheim but not Heathrow. Inexplicable)                                                                         




Blenheim on a 'fine' day
I have been here before. Having been an anglophile and reader of historic fiction, I love Blenheim's connection with QE1 and the Marlborough's. The more recent Churchill references leave me a little cold as I am not comfortable with the English use of Ozzie bodies as cannon fodder.
At this point in my journey, I was filling up my soul with images of Mark and green to take back with me to Markless brown Australia. Mark was playing hard to get with the camera, but the green let me drink deeply!
Lovely hole in the tree to imagine filling with owls, squirrels and pixies.


A view of green can only be improved by....
adding Mark
Beautiful palace vista can only be improved by....
adding Mark
I will stop tormenting him. A simple vista.....
All the photos I took were taken by the camera in my phone. I have been pretty pleased with it. So when we reached Blenheim's butterfly house, I tested it without even going to its macro setting. Amazing clarity. I have had a collection of cameras over the years. One, my 21st birthday present, was very valuable. But none have given me this quality combined with simplicity.
From Blenhem it was on to Newent where we were staying in a cottage Mark had rented for us. Beautiful and quaint. I had to send Mark on walks by himself just so I could sit in the sunroom and enjoy it. He was way too busy to have time to sit!


The garden was as pretty as an English garden can be but there was something I had glimpsed in the advertising material and I wanted to confirm my suspicions!
Sure enough! Two gum trees in the back yard. In fact when we spoke to Julian, one of the owners and in fact a Chelsea flower show winner, there was also a Wolomi pine in the back corner too.

Our Front door. Mark reached to steady me everytime we walked down they cobbley stones. I assured him I could manage, but he then and now insists that I needed the assistance. (Makes me feel even older than I am, but he means well)
Fred- teleporting Turtle. Never seen move, but always discovered with food




And there you see what this trip was all about! I am so proud it is ridiculous. Do they say there is no fool like an old fool? Well that might be a bit harsh, but I certainly feel as giddy and happy about this 2nd attempt of happily-ever-after as I can ever remember feeling. Thank you ! I adore my ring. It is so beautiful. I shouldn't be this materialistic, but as it twinkles away while I am typing, I have to say thank you again!
Our first day was spent on a trip to Cheltenham for a food and wine festival. Great smells, good music and food with dodgey weather. We enjoyed lunch and wandered to a nearby pub just as the crowds started to thicken - very much like the clouds were.
We made it to the pub, armed with Pims for me and  a beer for Mark and then he heavens opened. We sat in warm comfortable surrounds and congratulated ourselves on our fine timing.







Once the weather cleared - which it did- and in fact did a lot over the course of the holiday so I will now try to avoid references to rain as Mark would like me to remember this as a lovely fine summery holiday. 
Anyway, when it cleared, we headed towards Gloucestershire. When I saw the cathedral's spire over the town, I asked mark to take a side trip there as I had heard snippets of its story over the years.
Poor old thing! 
It isn't getting the money that Salisbury's is getting and the centuries of people visiting it have not been kind. It's like it has had 1000 years of choir boys scratching away at every surface since. I would describe it as a grand old heap.
Interesting thing is that in England I got to learn [artner's pace. And quirks. he doesn't read all the little signs with information but he can't help singing loudly in a church.

Cows at Three Counties Show
Now what I have to do is make sure this doesn't become a day by day, blow by blow of the trip.
However the next day we were off to the show!!!!
Sheep watch the judging of "Humans in white coats"


Tewkesbury Abbey. Not as huge (though still quite large!), but obviously had better trained choir boys as it hadn't been worn nearly so much.


There were aspects where there were so many angles and so many layers. I wish the light had been better to have captured the depth of field better




What Ozzie can resist a wobbley Tudor facade? We had a beer there. Partner  feels nervous when the walls are not at right angles. He thinks that if they are going to fall down one day, it would be good to know which day that was going to be in advance (I am putting words in his mouth). For me the thing about 'ye olde English building' is the smell. Damp. Old. Damp.
My lunch
Wow
Partner treated me and treated me again. We ate too well.  
When we first walked past this restaurant, it was empty and about 12:30pm. Not a good time to be empty if you have a good reputation so we kept walking. But our feet brought us back as it just looked nice. 
By the time we got there there were a few tables occupied and now well after 1pm.
We placed our order and Partner asked if we could have a little bread. Shiho(?) said it was on it's way.
We had ordered the two course meal- and that is all we were billed for but we were treated to a wonderful meal. Amongst the little extras that we were given was a lovely soup. I later overheard that they had just started serving lunch that week so it may be that they were letting us sample extras that were prepared for a crowd that didn't yet realise the lunchtime option. Whatever the reason, we had a wonderful meal. Thank you very much!




Green, old buildings and narrow hedged roads. I couldn't get enough of them.

We drove....


and drove..

We drove so far we ended up in Wales, where there are strange trench-dwelling sheep. I have never seen sheep who live in trenches before....

Sunshine! And Elderflower Cordial. My new favourite refresher. Here we are at Hellen's.
http://www.hellensmanor.com/
A dilapidated manor house.

I think Partner and I were falling in love with the less sophisticated, We both preferred our exploring of this crumbling backwater to the commercial splendor of Blenheim.

Three Choirs Winery for Lunch
The trip wasn't all about food but.....
Three Choirs Winery wasn't far at all from Newent. The restaurant had left us disappointed on the Sunday, being fully booked for Father's Day. And even our mid-week lunch time drop in found it bustling and window seats at a premium.
My lunch. Baked Brie and the most delicious chutney I have ever eaten
With our lunch we tried some of their wines. I had a delicious sweet one and Partner's choice was lovely too. Lovely enough to appeal to even my sweet palate.
Chepstow Castle in Wales
Seeing Jane Austin's Sense and Sensibility at Chepstow in the evening was a trip highlight!
To be honest- being with Mark was the highlight. All the other things became backdrops to that, but of all the backdrops, this was the best!

Mark had booked us tickets in advance to an evening performance on the castle grounds. We arrived just as the tourist day ended and watched the heavy wooden doors close in front of us to our dismay as we hope to be able to see the caste... not just the show.

We poked the 15 foot high doors and they must be very well hung, as they swung open enough for us to poke our heads through and ask when we might get in. Reopening at 6:45 for the 7:30 performance.
We were on the door step ready to go when it re-opened but once we had staked our claim with folding chairs (bought especially for the evening), we were told 'no leaving the main courtyard'.

The man in high-viz was friendly though and struck a conversation.. "Have you come far tonight?" I dropped the word Australia into a sentence and suddenly we are being told to go and have a discrete look. Mark is not very discrete, but we did take advantage of the offer and had a lovely, private wander through the castle.



Thank you Mr Hi-Viz

Looking along the walls built strategically against the river


Pretty Framed view


7 actors sharing about 18 roles. very well done!
A long held dream come true
Twenty years ago, I didn't make it to Bath. I can't tell you how many years before that I had wanted to go there but 20 years ago I made it within a few miles and for reasons beyond explanation, I was driven away again...
But here is my Bath. My Jane Austin. My roman ruins.



Meeting the people
Meeting the in-laws is something that causes so much anxiety that there are books and movies dedicated to the subject. 
Meeting Mark's family was going to be a big deal for me.
He told me they would love me because they would be happy for him.

He told me often enough that I believed they would want to like me. But it wasn't enough to convince me that, having his best interests at heart, they wouldn't wish for something else for him.

I am the 'older woman', and too old for more kids so not only am I taking him away from his existing family, I am giving him my bunch of teenagers and closing the option of having his own.

I couldn't read their minds, but the People's actions spoke plenty. And I am even more happy. I loved the lunch we had with all the kids enjoying being the focus. And dare I say, enjoying not having a 3 year old of my own needing focus.

And cards, and wine and invitations to dinner.....

What I felt was welcome and not judgement.

This is a subject where the heart feels much, but it is a public space and these are private lives so that is all that is being put out today!
Poole Harbour
Home of my favourite shop- Poole Pottery. Gifts of great beauty were purchased here!
My energy to blog is fading. I have been here for 5 hours and there are still photos with no captions.

Let me quickly caption them and then escape from the computer with just one last message.
Thank you Mark
Masts in the grass
A serpentine waterway finds its way through the rushes


Gulls with dark heads


Captured in flight by a phone. Amazing technology


Look! Water


Harmony points her nose at Corfe Castle
The good girl drove me to the airport proving her worth as a faithful steed


He hates this photo. Tuff

Playing with a bee
very 70s


Spooky swans
Swans should be black you know


This time the red nose is a boat, driven by Mark in the rain


Squirrel!
I pursued these allusive creatures. Timid shy things. i have deleted hundreds of photos of tiny specks in the distance. Each photograph matched by a huff from mark who can't understand squirrel excitement


Ok... so not all squirrels are nervous.. i backed off before this guy did!

Thursday, June 13, 2013

I'm on my way...

So here I am, snuggled in my nest in Melbourne. I flew in last night, trying to avoid being held captive by Canberra fog.
I am my way to England.

I feel torn in writing this blog between excited prattle and deep reflection on the life journey that this is part of.

So let me say both ..
briefly..as I am writing this on my phone and is is painful.

Yes~I am very excited about this trip. Love travel. But I do get do nervous aboutgetting something wrong.  So far I have identified one error. I have packed a pair of good shoes.. but they just don't happen to be each of the same pair...

Mark had booked tickets to see a Jane Austin play on the lawns of a Welsh castle. I can't think of anything designed to appeal to me more every. I love him s bit more again Notre.

But the greatest part of the journey is the bit that is deep. we are exchanging bicycle bells

Friday, April 26, 2013

Hating DH Lawrence

I read a lot. It is one of my long standing, greatest loves.

I read a lot of different things, but predominantly romance. I love reading the Georgian novels by Austin and Burney. I have wandered, delirious, through George Elliot, played with Thackery,  and have a girly crush on Alcott, Ingles-Wilder and Montgomery. 
My love affair with Tolkien ended though, when the rest of the world stole him from me.
For something contemporary, I have journeyed with Bryson, chased after the girl with the dragon tattoo and gone into space with Arthur C.
I happily bathe in chick lit and spent a naughty few nights reading shades of grey.

But I hate D H Lawrence.

I like to explore different styles of writing. I read Lady C back in the 80s when I was still pretty naive. I don't remember enjoying or disliking the book, so I am willing to bet I was using my energy trying not to be shocked instead. Lately, having read a little too much chicklit, I decided it was time to embark on something to give my brain a bit of a work out, and downloaded some DH to my Kindle to have another look.

What a miserable, misanthropic, misogynist.

Mr Lawrence was clearly a sad, bitter, nasty little man.
His characters? The most pathetic, mixed up bunch I have ever seen.

When I read a book, I like to find myself in the characters. If I can't, then I don't believe in them. And I don't believe in his people. They are a repulsive set of hateful people. When they fall in love, they hate all the more intensely  There is no reason for their love. The people he shows us aren't lovable, and the lovers aren't even sure of their attraction. What repulses them is made obvious.

Clearly DH was a very disappointed man if that is what he thinks love is. 

First off the ranks was Sons and Lovers. Having read a bit of Wiki and other DHL references on the net it isn't a stretch to say this book is close to autobiographical. A boy with Mummy Issues. Uncertain sexual bent - probably an damaged, under-expressed homosexual.  But ringing above all was his disgust of women-other-than-mother.

In over 40 years of reading, I have never seen the word 'hate' used so many times in a novel. Does he really hate? He is supposed to be a great novelist, so surely he doesn't resort to childish hyperbole? Does he mean hate in a good way? (?!) And if he is great, surely he wouldn't be relying on that one technique? That one word?

But I am overlooking his other great technique. Repetition. Yes, that's what he likes. Repetition, dreary never ending repetition  And to mix it up he can also be dreadfully repetitive. And when you think you have escaped it, he is going to throw it at you again. 

I have moved on to Women in Love. Sigh. I am blogging now because one of the two sets of couples has just made love and she is hating him intensely because he fell asleep and lays there 'so perfect and immune, in an other-world, whilst she was tormented with violent wakefulness, cast out in the outer darkness'.
I guess she got the shits because he fell asleep and didn't talk to her.

Actually it was probably the  'effluence' that he repeatedly compared her with:
'all his veins were murdered and lacerated, healed softly as life came pulsing in, stealing invisibly in to (sic) him as if it were the all powerful effluence of the sun'

I am hoping it is a kindle-version typo, but it was mighty consistent as it was swiftly followed up by:
'miraculous, soft effluence of her breast'
'healing lymph of her effluence'
'flow of this living effluence'


I am hoping that DH used the word influence. Unfortunately, by this stage in my relationship, the latter seems more fitting with the DHL I have come to hate.....in a bad way.

Sunday, April 7, 2013

Dog's Appetite for Destruction

So a week later he has eaten:

  • 2 camellias
  • All 3 of the succulents planted in a pot
  • A prostrate wattle
  • the top out of the nandina
Not sure if I am game to go and see what has happened while I slept in this morning.

My shoulder is aching again, having recovered somewhat from last year's near disaster with bursitis. Obviously not well suited to crow bar work.
I wanted to put some lawn in (as described in the photos last week, but I am now reasonably worried that if i do that, I am going to be smack back into the world of no sleep from shoulder pain.

I guess I will take two weekends off and see what happens and then try again.

Friday, March 29, 2013

Easter Gardening 2013


It's the Easter long weekend. My plans are all gardening.
I nearly always have a small stock pile of plants on my front veranda ready to plant when time and enthusiasm coincide. However this approach has been backfiring. If I leave them on the back veranda, Ponyo eats them. If I leave them on the front one, I forget them and they bake in the western sun. So last weekend I had planted every single last potted plant. 

All the shops today are shut being good Friday so my gardening plans would have been thwarted if I hadn't cunningly accumulated a few more pots during the week. While at Bunnings nursery, I checked out the reduced plants. They had marguerite daisies in very large pots for $8- reduced from$16. I swiftly included them in my trolley however on reflection, I ended up leaving them. The reason? Daisies are pretty darn easy to propagate.  And those pots were pretty darn huge. I was going to have to dig an awful lot of clay to get them into the ground! So I bought a few smaller (and cheaper) ground covering daisies and that is what I planted today.
With Ponyo's help
(note the worn dog path with dog centred)

Things are coming along. I need to work on the back half of the yard now as the top part is pretty much in maintenance mode now.
April last year and almost April 2013- with the insert of computer generated lawn dream from last year. Reality is almost as good as the dream!


Looking towards the deck and over the top of the Japanese Maple courtyard
The Japanese Maple Courtyard- today I added some nandina. The taller one rather than the ubiquitous small one. I think I will buy a couple more tomorrow
Circles indicating where all the shrubs are that you can't see.
I have planted a load of things down along the fence now. By Easter 2014 I imagine this photo will look very different.
My next goal is to work out a path to go beyond the existing path that the dog can follow and that won't wash away. When I first moved in, Mum suggested covering the whole back yard in bark chip to keep the dust down until I was ready to put things in. So I see it strictly as a temporary thing.
I wonder if I could just have lawn through the centre. I would prefer that to be honest. Easier on the eye.


And so in my mind I imagine into the future again. I hope the 2015 prediction is a good one too!
Easter 2015?

Dream corrected for Ponyo reality